Femme and femme relationships

Out On The Couch

It’s your right to tell someone that you love them and you long to have a relationship with them. That they get to say, do, and believe whatever they want because that’s their business. But not with you. It’s your right to declare them the harm that their actions are causing you, the way that it’s interfering with you having a relationship with them the way you desire, and that until they can support you as you are, they’re not welcome in your life.

This is what I told my client whose internalized biphobia was blocking her from recognizing the hurt that her mom’s biphobia is causing her. She knows that the relationship is strained and she’s beginning to see that she needs to set boundaries, but she doesn’t know how.

When I verbalized the above boundary to her in session, I meant it seriously, but I was also doing an exercise with her. I wanted to point out the influence of internalized biphobia on her understanding of her choices in how to interact with her mom. I wanted to say it out loud as an unashamed counterpoint because it didn’t seem like she had entertaine

All the CLOTHES

Words by Whitney & Megan of What Wegan Did Next

Life is so much easier when you've found your BFF. The one who you can inform everything to, that you can go shopping with and give make-up tips with. She's also your lover, soul mate and partner in life. The perks of being in a feminine lesbian relationship are endless

1. Your wardrobe doubles

If you’re lucky enough to date someone the same size as you then you obtain to share clothes. We're often complemented on our outfits and straight women tend to be so jealous that we fetch to share clothes. Plus, no more picking up smelly socks or boxer shorts from the floor!

2. You have the perfect excuse when shopping

Everything is literally half price. 'These jeans are £, but technically that's £50 each so totally justifiable' or 'this expensive eye cream can be shared by the both of us, what a bargain!'

3. You get to share make-up and beauty tips

You have your own in-house bestie who can help you do your make-up and give you tips. Plus, if you're the same make-up shade, you g

LGBTQ+ History Month: Femmes and Femininity

Written by Ella Bowles

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Whether you’re greatly involved in online queer discourse, or have simply stumbled across certain queer term sand labels, you have likely heard the term ‘femme’ used to outline someone. Typically used in the context of lesbian, female-identifying people, to be a ‘femme’ goes beyond what much of the online content on the term expels on the surface. By delving into the history of ‘femme’ culture, as well as the ways in which the label has evolved to more contemporary concepts of queerness and identity, this article aims to bring you up to speed on all things ‘femme’!

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i. Doesn’t it Just Mean Feminine?

To be a ‘femme’ is to show one's queerness through their femininity, so in short, yes. Beyond the label, however, there is more than just what we might consider to be typical “feminine” qualities. The terminology began to be used in the 40s to describe relationship dynamics between “femme” and “butch” women, the former being a feminine presenting woman and the latter being masculine present

8 dating and relationship struggles femme LGBTQ+ women have to deal with

There is no one way to be a lesbian or queer woman. Whether you're LGBTQ+ or not, you've probably heard of the terms 'butch', 'androgynous', and femme. As 'femmes' (lesbians whose appearance and behaviour are seen as traditionally 'feminine' by the world at large), we're both blonde, around the alike height, and love to wear pink lipstick. We're also wife and wife.

Being in a relationship with someone who is femme in similar way to you certainly has its perks. We share makeup and clothes (what's yours truly is mine). However, when you're a femme LGBTQ+ woman, dating isn't always easy – and if you're out and about with your partner, there is so much nonsense and stereotyping you possess to deal with…

1. "But you don't look gay!"

Also known as, "but you're too feminine to be gay!" This is truly such a strange comment to make to someone, how can their looks equal their sexual orientation?! Just because I wear lipstick, it doesn't build me automatically straight.

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